The Confidence Shift: How to Lead and Speak with Presence (Not Perfection)

 In this conversation, Michelle Fragias discusses the importance of transitioning from a performance-based approach to a presence-based approach in public speaking. She emphasizes the need for authenticity and connection with the audience, sharing her personal journey and insights on how to achieve this balance. The conversation highlights three key strategies: stopping the excessive polishing of messages, trusting in the messiness of communication, and anchoring oneself in the body to foster genuine expression.

Takeaways

•  The shift from performance to presence is crucial for effective communication.
•  Over-polishing can lead to a loss of authenticity.
•  Finding a balance between polish and presence enhances connection with the audience.
•  Trusting in the messiness of your message allows for genuine expression.
•  Anchoring in your body helps to maintain authenticity while speaking.
•  Self-awareness is key to understanding audience responses.
•  Using pauses can enhance the impact of your message.
•  Personal rituals can help in anchoring oneself before speaking.
•  Not everyone will resonate with your message in the same way.
•  Embracing your truth is essential for impactful communication.

Sound Bites

•  "I wish I said that."
•  "Stop polishing and start pausing."
•  "What feels real and true for me?"

Chapters
00:00 The Confidence Shift: From Performance to Presence
03:47 Finding Balance: Polish vs. Presence
07:08 Embracing the Messiness of Communication
09:21 Key Takeaways for Authentic Speaking